Starant (original poster new member #87015) posted at 12:03 AM on Friday, March 27th, 2026
Three months into affair, WH went from i want to do therapy to blaming me to saying he isn’t mature enough for marriage to giving me his passwords to just changing to be really cold. Despite being separated in different houses since Dday, i felt something was off. I checked his social media and found him in contact with the same coworker he had a 6 month physical affair with. This is after i put in writing clear boundaries that if he spoke to her again, i would not be doing reconciliation. When i confronted him, he said i was overreacting, then said he was leaving me in limbo to buy time, then said he told her everything and she had access to his email. I have not spoken to him since he except to say he needs to go through my mum or sister for our daughter. I am completely devastated for my daughter. She asks me daily why dad doesn’t come home, why he is at his mums, why he broke his promise and wont fix it. WH has been leaving voicemails on my phone saying all this bullshit that he is sorry, has empathy and hopes Im okay. Its all a load of shit. He said all this when i found out the first time. But for the sake of my daughter, I just wish it was different and she could have a family.
