InkHulk ( member #80400) posted at 4:05 AM on Friday, March 27th, 2026
Genuine questions:
Are you afraid to talk with your wife about the affairs?
What prevents you from having the conversations that Unhinged suggests?
You’ve said yourself in one of these threads that you think there is a better than 50/50 chance that your wife is hiding something major from you. I don’t believe that Zen’ing out is going to permanently resolve that.
You got advice here about mindfulness and being in the now, you took it and saw some immediate improvement. That’s good. You seem really hesitant to dig any deeper, even though the same community is saying that isn’t the full remedy.
I say this anticipating it will annoy or upset you, but it’s meant in good faith.
People are more important than the relationships they are in.
