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It's a damned shame that journalists and commentators will stop with the actual events themselves and not launch into an open and frank discussion of how devastating are the affects on spouses and their children.

I think she is gonna get away scott free. She is the head of HR. Most likely she knows their policy and that the lower ranking person isn't who gets punished in a workplace affair.

OW is the Chief Person Officer, so she's on the same executive level as him, not a subordinate. And as the person in charge of the department that is the personnel gatekeeper and responsible for overseeing policies pertaining to all manner of interpersonal complaints, she has lost all of her credibility here.

The Board of Directors at the company have opened up an investigation. Every hiring, firing, and promotion at that company is going to be scrutinized. Investors are going to pull out and heads are going to roll.

If I were advising WH's wife, I would tell her to file now, while this dirtbag is still worth something.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 8:16 PM, Friday, July 18th]

My experience is that HR is very good at knowing their own rules...

The public org chart shows her reporting to him but you could be right that they are parallel in the actual org chart which would make it a potentially different violation or not a violation at all. You'd be surprised what does and doesn't affect people's credibility. A public affair is hardly a big deal in the year of our lord 2025 if you have other proven track records related to shareholder value and haven't technically violated rules.

Tanner, I keep thinking about his kids .

Yes and he and the AP put them in this position of consequences. It sucks, I feel horrible for the ones that didn’t have a say. Hopefully this is a moment of awareness for those in active affairs right now.

A public affair is hardly a big deal in the year of our lord 2025 if you have other proven track records related to shareholder value and haven't technically violated rules.

I just saw in the news that company has placed them both the WH and the OW on leave.

We shall see. Leave isn't the same as being fired. We will see what the board does long term. We as a society have short attention spans.

The Board members are interested in one thing and one thing only: if their affair costs the company they're gone. If not, not.

Well if he is fired that doesn’t serve her well as far as alimony goes nor does it help if she decides to stay. I know he deserves it, but she doesn’t. In a perfect world, the betrayed would make all the decisions and be granted privacy to do so.

Honestly the betrayed wife and kids will be fine. This dude is worth 1.5 Billion. Thats Million woth a B. They can afford to start totally over new locales new schools etc. This is fuck you money. Beyond what most of us can even dream about.

Thay said she needs to act fast and hard and take this douchecanoe for everything she can. She can start over heal and be happy. He however will most likely be left in the dust. Reports today say the AP Is freshly D'd. I hope her X didn't get hosed on the D while she was establishing a life with unlimited funds.

Evidently the statement released was complete nonsense. I certainly hope the board shames and fires him and causes him significant financial loss.

All the money in the world doesn’t mend a broken heart and this woman needs to be granted the privacy to breathe and decide what is best for her and her family. This cheater is no different than the cheaters that come here. We grant them the grace to grow and change and most importantly encourage the betrayed to do what’s best for them. We don’t know what that is for her nor do we know anything about the cheater short of him being rich and a cheater. I hope the media backs off and people leave her alone to make her own choices:

Honestly the betrayed wife and kids will be fine. This dude is worth 1.5 Billion. Thats Million woth a B. They can afford to start totally over new locales new schools etc. This is fuck you money. Beyond what most of us can even dream about.

I’m not sure where you got that figure from. The entire company (Astronomer) is worth $1.3 billion and he doesn’t "own" the company (not even the founder). The Economic Times estimates his Net Worth at $20-$70 MM. Still VERY significant but a large portion of that is likely equity in the company (see below) and could be at risk if he is fired for cause. I have read that both parties are suspended while working out a financial settlement to separate both from the company.

Per the Economic Times:

Andy Byron Net Worth
Astronomer was last valued between $1.2 billion and $1.3 billion after its Series D funding round in May 2025. As CEO, Byron likely holds an equity share in the company. Based on standard CEO ownership ranges for private startups, he could own between 1% and 5% of the company.

This would place Byron’s estimated equity between $12 million and $65 million. When adding possible salary, bonuses, and stock options from his past executive roles, his overall net worth may range from $20 - $70 million.

Reports today say the AP Is freshly D'd. I hope her X didn't get hosed on the D while she was establishing a life with unlimited funds.

Her divorce was final in 2022. Reports are coming out now that she has remarried since then. Her current last name is not her maiden name and is the same as the CEO of Privateer Rum who property records reflect she was married to when purchasing a house in February of this year. So two BS’s in this mess…..

My understanding is the AP is also married. Not one mention of the BH here. Interesting.

I know people are feeling the empathy for the wife but I feel differently. When my WH’s thing blew up super publicly I was already screwed. Everyone knew, they knew more than me cuz I thought it was a little flirtation maybe one kiss but everyone at work, my neighbors, my childhood friends, my mother, father, like everyone could see the writing on the wall. They saw the doctor with the overinflated ego and his medical assistant getting their rocks off while I remained in denial for the next 8 years. The affair ended when I confronted him in the office in front of like fifty people including patients.There was nothing that could be done to save me, it was a fait accompli. But my husband COULD be punished and he was, He lost credibility, he was in line to run their massive private practice that he had pursued for more than a decade and he lost all that. he lost his cherished position as a good guy never to return. She was given severence by the CEO and she suffered. In my mind it was well deserved.. she was the mate poacher pursuing his money despite having a lovely husband (handsome, a hockey player, devoted to their family. It didn’t matter she wanted the money). She also lost her reputation and was ever after treated with disdain. I would not turn back time. My pain was my pain, it was immutable. Gut the humiliation of my WH and AP was a source of solace. I say rock on. Take these two cheaters for everything they are worth.

This is just my take. Everyone else is entitled to their behavior. Authenticity and character are the routes to peace.

Here are the lyrics to a country song. I’m a New Englander but these resonated to me:

" Well, word gets around in a small, small town
They said he was a dangerous man
But mama was proud and she stood her ground
She knew she was on the losin' end
Some folks whispered, some folks talked
But everybody looked the other way
And when time ran out there was no one about
On Independence Day"

This lady was strong - she moved decisively - she’ll find her a resilience to a reimagined live. Applaud her!

I remember being afraid and anxious to leave the house for over a month. I was so afraid of running in to someone I knew who knew… etc..: it was too raw for me to know that the shame and humiliation I was feeling was not mine to carry. Had it been public I think I’d have ended up in a psyche ward and I can’t even allow my mind to imagine how my kids would have handled it. My heart breaks for her and her kids. Especially her kids 😢.

Gr8ful, I only found that OW was married this morning. It was initially reported that she was a divorcee, so I assumed she was single.

It sucks for him, too, of course. Apparently they just closed on a new house, too.

I fall on the side of worrying about how this public exposure and hashing over affects the betrayed spouses and kids. I’m a deeply private person, and I can’t imagine trying to live through something this public on top of finding out my spouse was cheating. I’m a big girl and would just have to handle it, but man. I also worry a lot about teens and young adults in situations where their parents’ relationship breakdown is highly public and the subject of juicy gossip. I’m a high school teacher, and so I’ve worked with tons and tons of teenagers. I teach a lot of seniors, and it seems to be an age where LOTS of infidelity-sparked messy divorces happen. In the small town environment I teach in, there’s so much interconnection, and everybody is up in everyone else’s business. It’s sooooooo painful for the kids. Adolescents, even mature, healthy ones, haven’t usually developed the long term perspective and sense of self you need to get you through being pulled into public humiliation and exposure against your will. I get that there are some positives to exposure (and a certain satisfying karma to cheaters being publicly humiliated), but the damage to the kids looms super large in my mind because I’ve seen it play out in so many of my students’ lives.

Prayers and thoughts to the families.

You did nothing wrong. The more you gave, the more they wanted and took.

You were sane the whole time. Accept no more gaslighting.

R/
SL

If my H ever did something that affected our children in a similar way, he’d be dead and I’d be in jail lol.

But seriously the children are the ones who will struggle with this. I hope they get the love and support (and professional help if needed) that they need.

I've been thinking almost non-stop about this situation since it happened, and what pain this must be causing the CEO's wife and kids.

And, I'm reflecting on the fact that my XWH is a CEO who cheated with his employee, so the Coldplay thing hits home just a bit more. That affair with XWH's employee is what led me to D. But, there was at least one previous affair, several years ago. I kept the first one private out of shame, fear, and a desire to protect WH while we attempted R. I have a wonderful support system of family and friends, and I shared the A with none of them. And, I suffered tremendously, coping with the aftermath of betrayal for years, totally alone.

Fast forward to the most recent affair. This one was discovered in a more public way (not like the Coldplay cheaters, of course!) so keeping it private was not an option. Plus, I'd healed enough from the prior A to know that WH's choices were not about me or a reflection of my being 'less than'. I was able to walk away from XWH with my head held high, and I have been open with others about the circumstances of the divorce - "he was unfaithful, so I divorced him". It has been a radically different recovery journey to realize that people care about me, they see XWH for who he is, and they lift me up with their support.

So, while I can only imagine the trauma Andy Byron's family is going through, I hope that a silver lining for his betrayed spouse is that literally the entire world is rallying to her side and exposing her WH for who he truly is. And maybe that will help her move forward, faster and stronger. Wishing her and her kids the best in this terrible situation that none of them asked for or deserve.

If anyone ever doubted the ower of exposure…